The dangers of a sexless marriage may sound as if they are obvious. But this is not always so. Often the dangers of living in a sexless marriage go far beyond sex and deeper into the human psyche than some are prepared for.

The Emotional Downside

The emotional downside to one or both partners in a sexless marriage can be lengthy, painful and extremely difficult to get beyond. Often this side of the dangers in a sexless marriage are the hardest to cope with. While both partners may feel a disconnect with their loved one they also could internalize and personalize this into something they may have done wrong. They may believe they are no longer attractive to you or anyone else. They may begin to suffer from low self esteem which will go nowhere in helping to improve or save a sexless marriage.

On the flip side of this is that a partner who is controlling the lack of sex in the marriage may begin to feel an egotistical manner or attitude about it. This is also a dangerous attitude to take when it comes to sharing your life with someone else. This can build deep resentments in the other partner that may not survive struggles of a marriage at all.

The Physical Downside

The physical downside aside from the actual lack of sex may be as well the lack of affection. Some people are more affectionate and will suffer the loss of the lack of physical affections just as greatly as the other partner may feel the loss of sex. This can be felt as a devastating loss for some who have no idea how to cope with the lack of intimacy in their marriages.

With the loss of the actual intimacy of the sex itself as well, this can have harsh consequences on any marriage. Some people are seriously of the mind that if their significant other will not provide them with sex regularly, they will indeed seek it elsewhere. Some even share this fact to no avail with their spouse. This is a serious issue and should never be taken lightly even if you do not truly believe your spouse would cheat on you.

Dangers of Sexless Marriages

So the dangers actually should be listed as:

• Lack of Sex
• Lack of Intimacy
• Increased Physical and Emotional Distance
• Self Esteem Issues
• Seperation
• Divorce

Although those who get divorced over the lack of sex in a marriage almost always have complaints otherwise and outside of the bedroom. But there simply are cases where marriages have dissolved because one or both partners found themselves unable to or not allowed to have sex with their spouses.

Infidelity

Let us face the facts. Some people do feel they are entitled to regular sex if they are married to someone. If a divide in a marriage has kept it out of the bedroom it is quite possible for the spouse to take this as a sign that it is okay to cheat. And even if they do not feel it is okay, they indeed may feel like it is acceptable since the spouse has otherwise been denied all chances at sex or sexual release.

Although this is the absolute worse path to take if the plan is to keep the marriage together, it does occur, and is often a subsequent reason for divorces. When one or both partners are denied sex they can and do become easily flattered or pleased when someone else indicates an interest in them. For those who have suffered through low self esteem issues because of living in a sexless marriage they can doubly experience a great rush when a person flirts with them or offers them sexual intimacy when their spouse will not.

Ultimately, the best way to avoid finding yourself in a sexless marriage is to keep communications open and always speak with your spouse about how you two can better utilize your time to help to include time set aside for sexual intimacy.

As long as you prepare for the possibility that there are always lulls in a marriage where sex may not be wanted as frequently or for a reason such as being worn out by working or taking care of the family all day, you should be fairly safe with open communications when your needs are not being met.